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Scripture dating non believers

In Song of Songs, God has given us a holy and beautiful picture of a marital sexual relationship, and everyone seems to be having an excellent time.

Still, the overwhelming majority of believers will only share that relationship with one person in their entire lives.

How are we to relate to everyone else (especially believers), and how does that question inform the topic of premarital sexual activity?

We all know what we're talking about here, and these are not the things I mean to address in this column.

The game changes when two people are romantically involved or "semi-involved" (a fascinating phrase I recently heard). Before you start throwing things at your computer, let's go to Scripture.

Michael Lawrence and other able Boundless authors have written before about the wonderful gift of sex, so I won't belabor the point except to repeat that the Scripture passages on sex, taken together, make very clear that God instituted sex for purposes of procreation, pleasure, intimacy, holiness and — ultimately — for His glory.

God instituted sex within marriage as part of His design of the family (Genesis ).

I am obviously not saying that hugs and kisses of affection or greeting to relatives and the like are out of bounds. In some cultures, kisses of greeting — between members of the same sex or of the opposite sex — as well as hand-holding and other forms of physical expression during normal, non-romantic social intercourse, are more common. You might even be able to talk me into the notion that , "non-leaning-in" hugs of greeting, sympathy, etc.

between men and women who are not romantically involved are OK.

The orthodox interpretation of the book suggests both that an actual sexual relationship is part of what the narrative relays and a context (at the time of the sexual part of the relationship) of marriage.

So marriage is a unique relationship, and the good gift of sex is not only allowed but commanded within that relationship.

It is certainly true that no passage of Scripture says — in so many words, at least — "thou shalt not kiss before marriage." Having said that, I submit that there is a strong argument to be made from Scripture that there is sexual relationship outside of marriage.